Good wishes are coming your way for your new marriage. You took the plunge. You stepped out of your comfort zone and married a man who is younger than you.
Some people would call your decision “risky.” Well, the reality of life is that we have to take risks to move ahead, to change things up, to step out of our box, to quicken the movement of life, to step over the threshold of boredom and into a more fulfilling existence.
Others might say you made a mistake. In fact, you indicated your adult children from your first marriage warned that you were making a “mistake” to marry your young fiancé. Again I proclaim: Mistakes are part of life. Even if we never take any new, bold steps we will still make mistakes because we are human. Mistakes happen. And if you find in the future that you made a mistake marrying this young man, then you can take other steps and make different choices.
Meanwhile, here are my three simple suggestions for your recent marriage:
Tip 1: Immediately start to practice the art of listening. Set aside 15 minutes each day to TAKE TURNS talking/listening to each other.
Tip 2: Learn all you can about each other in all facets of your lives. Some of what you learn will come from talking/listening; some will come from observing.
Tip 3: Love each other with all your hearts. Speak and show your love.
These three suggestions are not meant to exclude your adult children. You will always listen to them, learn about them, and love them too, but your new husband will be your main focus.
Dr. Joan’s Harmony Key: Have faith that each NEW step is a NEW beginning.