It is never easy to know what to say to someone whose loss rips open her very soul. Bless you for the tender words you offered to your friend on the death of her grandchild. Rest assured that she is not pushing you away, but she is momentarily caught in the natural whirlpool of her own sorrow. When a dear one passes, it becomes crystal clear that we all hang by the thin thread of mortality. Part of our grief is for the one has left us, and part of it is for ourselves who must remain behind. Both types of grief are entirely appropriate. As she continues to sort through her feelings, remain steadfast in your love for your friend. Reassure her that you are close by and ready to listen.
Dr. Joan’s Harmony Key: The wounded heart is mended by soft words.