Yes, homework time can breed stress for the entire family. Dramatic breakdowns between parent and child can be the result. It is critical to interrupt the cycle NOW before the avoidance tendency becomes ingrained in your son.
Try these tips to build a positive attitude all the way around:
*Have a face-to-face talk with your son about a NEW method for doing homework. Let him talk about all his worries. Lead him to see that it is his responsibility to get his homework done, not yours. Explain that he will do homework every school day, even when none is assigned. Set the timer. Usually 10 minutes per grade level is acceptable. So a 4th grader will do 40 minutes. When the bell rings, he is excused, finished or not! Over time, he will learn to focus and finish all of his homework within the time period. Then he is free to chose his own activities, without guilt or shame.
Request a conference with your son's teacher before starting this new method. Your common goal is to build your son's sense of responsibility.