First, stop calling yourself a "Bad Dad." You are not a bad dad for disciplining your 8 year old son. He needs to learn that stealing and lying are not tolerated and he needs to learn it now. In fact, it is a lesson best learned well before 8 years of age. What your son must learn is that taking someone's property and then lying about what he did are both unacceptable behaviors. Try the following with your son:
*Have a five minute talk, eye to eye, about what happened. Get him to tell you WHY he did it. Ask him how the other person who lost the property feels. Tell him how you felt when he lied to you. Involve your son in setting consequences if it happens again. End by both you and your son agreeing that it will not happen again. Tell him you have faith in him and you love him. Hug him!
Dr. Joan's Harmony Key: Expect the best of your child.